After a week off, it’s time for episode 74~ NOW ON SPOTIFY~
QUESTION TIME: DO YOU LOVE YOUR PROBLEMS?
I ask you this to challenge you, because some people, just some people, love their problems so much that they create more just to have more problems.
Some people love problems because, at a deep level, it helps them recognise love. That love, to them, is fixing things.
So, I want to talk to you today about love, and how to open yourself up to it in all forms, not just in ways that we think it needs to come.
You see, what I’ve discovered is that people often limit the way that love can come into their life by thinking it only has to come through a certain way.
When we are able to flip that around, we open ourselves to ALL FORMS it can come through, and as a result, we allow ourselves to start getting it through the form that we needed it to come through the most!
In fact, this is what my latest podcast is about, all about love!
On the other hand, when we think it has to come through a certain point, what we end up doing is choking the forms that it can come through. Especially if you’re in a position where the goal just keeps slipping out of your grasp.
That the closer you get to it, the further it just seems to be.
PAINFUL. AS. FUCK. AM I RIGHT?
So, this time, I’ve released a new podcast about this. Where we look at love in all its forms, so you can start bringing it in the form that you need the most!!
I also tell you why I missed last week’s podcast!
I don’t know about you, but it can be so brutally painful when somebody asks for space from you.
They can ask for it and it can feel like an attack. It can feel like they are abandoning you. It can feel like they were tricking you all along, that maybe they were only after one thing. Read More
Do you know why a person might be cold to text you and warm when they text another?
Have you ever been in a situation where it feels like somebody is avoiding or is numb to you, yet they can seem like they have a lot of fun with other people?
I definitely know what that’s like. In fact, it used to plague me all the time. It plagued me because it hurt me as I was trying my hardest.
When you TRY the hardest, that’s often when you get hurt the most. BUT FRET NOT!
Through my pain, I’ve learned what turns it around. It can be as simple as turning on a light switch!
So, what I’ve found, is that the first thing that makes messages be cold towards you (not that they are a bad texter, or anything like that) is that the conversation is VERY VERY LOGICAL!
I find things can be logical, not because of them being logical, but because of the fear we feel. We are afraid, so we don’t follow our heart.
When we don’t follow our heart, what happens? We try and connect with our mind!
Imagine a movie that you watch logically? It’ll probably be boring and un-alluring.
Imagine a movie that you’re just excited to watch? You’ll wait and every time a trailer comes out (a text message) you can’t wait for it.
So that’s my goal with you, if you’d like, to bring you to a point where your man is so excited to text you, and maybe even leads it first!
Wouldn’t that be nice?
So, today I’ve released a new podcast that covers this a hell of a lot more!
In this podcast, we talk a lot more about dating, love and what turning on the light switch so you don’t have to keep stabbing in the dark!
It’s time to talk about people pushing us around. I don’t know about you, but there have definitely been times in my life where I’ve felt that I’ve been unheard, left behind, pushed back or under-valued.
Sure, I’m your dating coach and I can talk specifically about love, but you know this can bleed into other parts of your life. For example, when I work with really high powered and amazingly successful women, I often find that maybe, just maybe, sometimes a few can still get left behind and undervalued in their relationships. This hurts me so much to see this.
So last night I spent hours and hours pondering this. Consolidating all my experience with working with people into one sentence, to really powerfully help people with this…
… and do you know what I found?
I found that it comes down to purpose. What is your purpose? Do you know how to find out how you want to live the rest of your life?
Purpose doesn’t have to be this profound meaning, it can even be a list of things that you want to do with your life. In this week’s podcast, we dive so bloody deep into this it is insane.
Think of it this way:
If you know how you want to live your life, then anybody pushing you around is just getting in the way. You’d naturally move them out of the way or ask them to be involved.
Bad relationships? You better believe this would sort that out. Why would you let yourself be in a bad relationship if you have a life to live?
Relationship feel like it’s going nowhere? You better believe that having a sense of purpose for your life would turn that around. The big problem I find with people is when people see their relationship as the sole provider of joy in their life. It can be, but if you have something more to live for, something that makes you take life by the reins & squeeze the most out of it… you better believe that having bad relationships in your life will have to be sorted out first.
So please, if you’ve enjoyed reading this, listen to this week’s podcast. It’ll dive deep into this and I’ll even reveal my own purpose.
Yes, I said it. Stop chasing self-love and confidence. It’s a side effect. It’s not the goal itself. That’s like wanting to throw an event but really you want to throw an event because of a reason.
It’s like cutting down a tree when what you really want is a log house. You’ll cut one down, in the process of creating the house.
So I want you, just for while you listen to my latest podcast, to give up on self-love and confidence. Just humour me, afterwards, you can go back to it.
Most of the time the game of self-love can lead people down a path of internal pain, because it becomes something they have to do, not what they are.
Now that you’ve given up on it, listen to this podcast. In this podcast, we talk about the true self-confidence. We can talk about true self-worth. We will also talk about jealousy because it is a massively misunderstood emotion. It can be your greatest friend if you let it be.