Ok, so when I say capture the soul of your man I do not mean using witchcraft! We get that black magic out of here. I mean using love, emotions, and a deep understanding of each other.
Because, honestly, in the ideal relationship there really should be no jealousy. No pain, no frustration. None of those things should really matter. You should never feel threatened by another person. You should never be in a situation where you feel uncomfortable there.
When you capture the soul of your man, his attention, his very essence, you do something a lot deeper.
And we do talk about this more in this week’s podcast. The power of connecting with your man and partner in a way that nobody else can and ever will.
And you might think you already know how to, but I have something to tell you.
You haven’t seen anything yet if you think you’re already there.
Look, this has been a widely requested topic for a while now, so I decided to hit it, and hit it hard.
While I might make an online course for it in the future, right now, I created a new youtube video for it.
That is, dating, after divorce.
This is about one thing. Making Space For Love…
About, love, space, and how it all blends together.
About how we can be our own worst enemy.
How perfect the world is if you let it be.
How you don’t have to do things alone.
A lot of people don’t make space for love. Period. I talk about this more in this week’s podcast.
They complain about how things don’t go their way, so as a result, find it impossible to meet people.
They think if they were prettier/stronger/more confident then they would have it, and while that might be true, you’re missing the point.
These people miss the point because they don’t have mental space for it. They are too busy worried about what is going wrong rather than what is going right or that life goes no matter what you do with it or not!
You see, there is a flow to love. It’s exponential not full of drama. It’s full of love not full of hate.
I have always observed that the best couples are on a rocket ride, while those who spend years fighting do just that, years fighting.
So, are you making space for love? If you were, you probably wouldn’t be reading this email. So, this week I’ve created a podcast on this. It’s not only a challenge but a step up. Those people who have the relationships that work for themselves… you know… those lucky ones… in some way accidentally know this.
I know because I never did. Growing up, I never did. I was lucky though, just like you are now, to learn it.
Ho Ho Ho
It is me, your boy, Dating Advice Santa!
I don’t know if it is ok with you, but I really want to ask you a question.
If it is ok with you, I’ll ask it.
Are you capable or comfortable accepting love into your life? I ask this because there are some people I talk to that say yes that they are, but when I speak to them they self-sabotage and push love away.
I mean, it’s not a big deal, but it can be if you do it without realizing.
The reason why I point this out is that the more I meet people who push people away, the more I see, that even if the yare in a relationship, it tends to be one of pain.
and that is not bad, but do you want your love life to be one in a theme of pain?
I’d hope not, you know.
So, if you’ve been thinking about it, or even if there’s 1% of you that thinks, “am I doing it right?” I highly recommend you listen to this week’s Honest Modern Dating Podcast.
In it, we talk about accepting love into your life (which is the biggest thing to do). We also talk about nuance. I even talk about my private relationship!
Yes, this is the first time that I’ll be speaking about it online.